7 STRESSFUL THINGS WE SHOULD STOP TOLERATING

7 STRESSFUL THINGS WE SHOULD STOP TOLERATING FROM TODAY(MARCH 10 2017)

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1.The decision to settle for mediocrity – It’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken.  Sometimes it’s about starting over and creating something better.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.  Sometimes growing up means growing apart from old habits, relationships, and situations, and finding something new that truly moves you – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning.  That’s what life is all about.  Don’t settle.

2. Your own negative Firstly......if i may ask what do u understand by the term RELATIONSHIP? Relationship is the connection between two people....
Relationship can be define as an interaction of connection between two or more people it can't be one person.. It maybe be mutual, family's, cordial friends, or lovers Common mistake in RELATIONSHIP There are some mistakes in relationship that we have to deal with

1. Involving 3rd party into our relationship

2.lack of understanding

3.trying to change a partner

4.Moneeeeeeeeyyyyy  (when you're not a money gram)

5. Confrontation
6. Dating for sex
7. Lack of communication
8. Love of money.......
Let's take it 1 after the other
How can 3rd party affect our relationship It can affect our relationship either positively or negatively... It depend on the type of people will involve.. If it the wrong people then the relationship will crash. .but if it the right person then it will move forward so it either of the two...
Who are the good and bad people?
Like am adages said look before you leap.... Our pastors and counsellors can be good sometime.... But some of our frnds re bad influence

HOW CAN THIRD PARTY AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIP

This problem, called triangulation, is one of the great enemies of good marriages.(RELATIONSHIP) Triangulation occurs when one spouse brings in a third party for an unhealthy reason. A “triangle” is created when, for example, a wife (Person A) goes to a friend (Person C) for something that she should go to her husband (Person B) for. Or in a family setting, a sibling (Person A) calls you (Person C) to talk about “Mom’s problem,” without first talking to Mom (Person B).  Here are some examples of triangulation that occur in marriage

• A wife talks to her best friend about her unhappiness with her husband, but doesn’t let him know her feelings.

• A husband confides to his secretary that his wife doesn’t understand him.

• One spouse makes their child a confidant, becoming closer to the child than to her mate.

• A husband is more invested in his parents than in his wife.

In all these examples, a spouse is taking a part of his heart away from his mate and bringing it to an outside source. This is not only painful, but also unjust. It works against what God intended to develop in marriage—the mysterious unity that brings the couple closer to each other in ever-deepening ways. Triangulation betrays trust and fractures the union.....

Or a spouse may not trust her husband over a mistake he made in the past
Third party really spoils relationships especially wen the third person involved is ones parent
Many spouse use their hands to bring down their home ...Yeah. The house they've bn building for so many year and they will bring it down within a minute It takes a while to build reputation and it takes just a minute to destroy it Many background backgrounds are the reasons people make mistakes....some males children grew up watching their fathers beat up deir mothers....and some females grew up watching their mothers starve deir fathers Some couples just rush into marriage and end up regreting it ....

Lack of knowledge, wisdom and understanding They're not patience

They've forgotten marriage is a school you they will never graduate,the only school u get the certificate before you gain admission into that school of marriage,a school you won't want to drop out....cos of the name u will bear after that especially when children are involved....a school where you can't reject or where you can't be lazy..a school where the headmaster opinion is the final(yes is yes,no is no)...a school where your partnership with God is been established. 

Moreso if u give a listening ear to the bad things people say about your spouse the relationship can never go far

 SCHOOL WHERE YOUR ASSIGNMENTS CAN'T BE POSTPONED

A school where you pratice all u av learnt Where u have to take responsibility for ur actions.....  Some young girls would just useless themselves in the name of love
because of money

LUST OF THE FLESH

Love is not wicked
Love is sweet if you have a good opportunity to taste it
Love is patience
Love is EVERYTHING GOOD
Young ladies out there misquoted the meaning of  LOVE with LUST Money is indeed the root of all evil...you hear of people doing money rituals daily..young girls end up bin victims of ritual to all rich alhajis....sum may nt end up dead buh wld end up wit one disease or the other.

Love doesn't demand tooooooo much
Buh guys mostly use the word love to deceive innocent girls Ladies of nowadays bliv without money there's no love Guys of nowadays bliv without  S.E.X there's no LOVE

 Married love requires a great deal of safety for intimacy to grow. Marriage brings out the most vulnerable, fragile parts of us. And these vulnerable parts need a warm, grace-filled, and secure environment in which to grow. If a third party threatens this, those fragile parts cannot be safe enough to emerge, connect, and develop. A wife who has trouble learning to trust others, for example, will have great difficulty investing in her husband if he is kinder to other people than to her or if he discusses with friends what she shares in private with him.
Wake up ladies and gentlemen let's make this world great again

Don't be fooled by THAT LUST CALLED LOVE In addition, marriage is designed to mature us. Living in such close proximity for so long with another person helps us come out of our isolation and self-centeredness. But it takes a great deal of work to grow in this context. You can be real with your colleagues and friends, but if you want to get the scoop on what someone is really like, the first person to ask is the spouse. The very exclusivity of marriage is like an oven: there’s a lot of heat, and you can’t always escape when you’d like to. But this heat can help us grow, also. The heat, or the pressure of living so closely with someone else, can help us face our weaknesses and work on them.

– Your mind is your sacred space.  You can close the windows and darken your space, or you can open the windows and let light in.  It’s your choice.  The sun is always shining on some part of your life.  What do you typically think about?  How far you’ve come, or how far you have to go?  Your strengths, or your weaknesses?  The best that could happen, or the worst that might come to be?  Pay attention to your self-talk.  Because maybe, just maybe, the only thing that needs to shift in order for you to experience more happiness, more love, and more success, is your way of thinking

3. Other people’s negativity.
– If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.  You do not have control over what others say and do; but you do have control over whether or not you will allow them to say and do these things to you. You alone can deny their poisonous words and actions from invading your heart and mind.  Remember, if you do not respect your sacred inner space, no one else will either.

4. Unhealthy relationships.

– Choose your relationships wisely.  Being alone will never cause as much loneliness as the wrong relationships.  Be with people who know your worth.  You don’t need lots of friends to be happy; just a few real ones who appreciate you for who you are.  Oftentimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.  We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.

5. Dishonesty.
– Inner peace is being able to rest at night knowing you haven’t used or taken advantage of anyone to get to where you are in life.  Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless.  Period.  Don’t be dishonest and don’t put up with people who are.

6. Inaction.
– The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing; growing happens when what you know changes how you live.  You can’t change anything or make any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  The best time to start is now.

7. The choice to mull over past mistakes and regrets. – If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down.  If you're thinking at all about uncluttering your life and cleaning up your space, start with the things that are truly useless, like old regrets, shame, and anger.  Let it GO!  You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading your previous one.

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