Adonay From South Africa: Asked A Question Concerning The Challenges She Is Facing In Her Relationship Life. Click To Read The Full Advise Friends Gave Her On Whatsapp.

On my Love Life and I Whatsapp platform: "Adonay from south Africa," asked a question on the challenges facing her relationship life. "Please House I Have A Question"

Here is the question:
So I broke up with my ex boyfriend. When I recover, I met another guy. We have been friends and its been cool but he asked me out. Knowing how amazing he was I agreed. We have been out a few times, its been an awesome relationship but now he is starting to become sexually active (its against my religion and culture to have sex before marriage) so I put him on hold but I love him so much. Now on social media I met another guy. He sounded very nice and kind so I invited him on private chats and its been on until I found out he is schooling in the school opposite mine. So we started hanging out as friends. My boyfriend was still okay with that until yesterday my new friend confessed feelings for me. Now my boyfriend wants me to choose.

The new friend really respects my feelings and thoughts. So does my boyfriend but he still asking for something against my principles. I have no idea what to do... please help me out.

       Answers from the House

Shollyworld: Relationship is good. But everything you do in it must be in accordance to your heart pleases and heart wishes. This thing we call love ❤ is just about willingness, Let that your new boyfriend know that. For him to agree with the will of your heart counted him as someone that really loves you.... He shouldn't force u..  If it's against your wish dat is is it about love.❤

B-Best: Firstly, let me ask you this. How sure are you that the second guy won't ask for sex?

Adonay: That is the thing I knew he want all the time. I don't know who to trust anymore. "Thanks Sholly for your answer."

Shollyworld: My Second opinion. Lets talk of the guy you met on social media. Sometimes, meeting people on media isn't bad but when they see you as been cheap is bad. The level of the fact they met you on media will still give them second thoughts about you. Now you have to be very careful with the guy you met online so that he will not affect your life.... "Quote me right," it Doesn't mean he is not good even for you. But the fact he met you online will always count on your Relationship for life time. Even if u will later take him more than just a friend, you first need to scan him and give him some limits so that he will not by the way take you for granted that is my own opinions.

Adeoye: Trust God, no how the second will not also ask you for sex. Just try to make ordinary friends with him, with time things will sort itself out. No guy will stay with you so intimate like that, that he will not desire to taste you.

Easy-Life: But to me if the boyfriend can't admit to your conditions, then let go of him now and before falling into the new friend's hand. Let him know all what your Religion and Culture are.

Adeoye: Easy-life. It's so easy to say.

Adonay: Sholly, I know all that, It's  been a whole month since we were friends. I know its dangerous meeting him online that's why I took a risk to meet him. I don't judge a book by its cover so I did hold back on feeling him on my life n all. Buh he's been really nice. I don't know what to do.

Adeoye: Be patient, turn all of them as natural friends  and leave the rest for God.

Adonay: I will consider. Thanks guys I will think about all your ideas. Thanks.

Adeoye: Don't get into relationships with d new one, he will still look for a way to get you.

Shollyworld: Well let me be frank with you. With the conditions surrounding your date. "That you are standing on no sex before marriage." ADONAY, "you can date anybody or give anyone chance. Even someone you met in a club House can be your date even worst than there. Simply because, their attitude will surely send them out of your life later on, if they are not real with your love. but let me be frank with you. Common pretenders are those you met online generally. Simply because they too are studying you like you are studying them.

So the guy you met online you can still give him a chance. But not now. He need to face some hard time... About you... Before you can think of taking him to be more than just a friend despite of the conditions around your date. Those are the ways u know real guys he will stay no matter what.

Adeoye: Hmmmmm! I love that Sholly. I just pray she can calm down, leave the online guy and be patient.

Holu-Kenny: Nice one Sholly.
don't let us keep beating around the bush, because even if we continue to say this day to day, we will still surely have some out there who will still keep falling victim due to their Ignorance.

Adeoye: Just pray for a good man,  and for God to give you wisdom in dealing with them, till you reaches where you are going, most of people we are dating, are not those who will marry us but only God knows who we will end up to get marry to. It is not good for a Lady to be changing man ( if you are having sex around, is good you stop it. "zip up" ) so be wise.

Adonay: Thanks you all. I will use many of your advice. Seriously, I would have taken the wrong decision before now. You all are Life savers, thanks to you all. I will definitely consider your advice, thanks.

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