Tips For our Ladies to become good Wife materials

Ladies let's look at how to reat the king of your heart to make him feel loved, wanted and avoid problems in your home.

RESPECT; oh yes men loves their EGO more than anything else, if there is something they wouldn't joke with is their ego, (but know the difference between a man who wants to be respected and who wants to turn you into his little mad slave). Never talk to him or treat him in a manner that is humiliating, or belittling, don't talk negatively to him or to any one about him. Always apreciate him when he does something good to you or your home entirely, don't forget that words are irreversible so watch your tongue even in anger.

PLEASANT: Be pleasant to him, a woman is known to have a soft and pleasant voice, always welcome him with a smile, ask him how he spent his day encourage him were he needs to be encouraged, be nice and pleasant to his friends and family members, always keep a happy face even if you are angry at something or some one, it wouldn't be fair to him when he comes in and met a sad home, remember you are the face of the home.

COMMUNICATION: communication is the key to a good and solid marriage do not hide things or keep secrets from your husband (that is not to say that you will bombard him with too much or unnecesary information) tell him things only pertaining to your self (let's assume he doesn't abuse/insult you, make out time that 2 of you can jist and laugh, crack jokes, tease each other. Be a good listener and never disclose his secrets to any one else for you are his confidant, good communication helos to build trust and strenghten your relationship, don't welcome him with complaint your tummy is not meant only for food, so keep some minor fandults of the kids to your self provided you already purnished them. The fight you had over shopping or what ever is past so don't remind him of his past look out the beautiful future and resolve the fights once and for all, never you communicate with attitude for you can send a wring signal open up and say what you feel towards what ever it is don't use a hurtful words be calm don't forget that issues are bound to arise in as much as two people are coming together from different homes to be friends for ever, so never you let the problem to affect your love for each other, you are adressing the attitude and not the person so always calls him by his pet name it will give him a signal that despite what ever you still love him only the attitude that you are not comfortable with.

BE SUPPORTIVE; a husband expect his wife's support and understanding especially in troubled times, she is a nurturer and an equal partner , love him for his successes and failures, be proud of him on his accomplishments, praise him if you are a good singer, sing for him (it's romantic) genuinely compliment him he is your first baby whom also wants your attention. If you don't agree with him respectfully let him know of your reasons.

DO NOT NAG; no one wants a nagging partner. Your hubby is a full grown man with his own thoughts and desires, so don't always force him to do things for you just because you want something to be done in a particular way.

GIVE HIM HIS SPACE; as a wife it's important to understand that your man has a life that is very important to him, he has extended famoly members, friends and colleagues who are part of his life, he also have hobbies and passions he is involved in, don't always choke him let him have his own time to enjoy his hobbys and sometimes hang out with good friends.

KEEP HIM HAPPY IN BED; sexual things is one of the most essential thing in marriage (any man who pretends not to like sex is indirectly telling you that he has alternative, you don't appeal to him and so on) try your best to look sexxy, wear sexxy wears for his eyes only, upgrade your styles and don't just lye down there like a log of wood, always contribute in the act and sometimes iniatiate it, desiring him will make him go gaga.

PLAN SURPRISES: Men like surprises too, it can be anything, if he loves you even if it is a 10 naira ground nut you buy for him he will appreciate you for small things turns big when done with love, play the cool seductress, seduce him sometimes starting from work send him some rugged text message (can't wait to have you home baby. We gonna see who will win today etc) plan surprise outings just for you and him or sometimes the whole family, birthday parties, buying him some things of his interest

KEEP THE HOUSE IN ORDER; this consist of both the kids and the house, men loves their kids that they always want to see them well taken care of, from their looks to the food they eat, their assignments and even the kind of language they speak at home. Take your time to decorate the house, be wise in spending take your wifely duties seriously with out complaining too much, organise family activities, and the Lord will reward you.

MAINTAIN YOUR HEALTH AND APPEARANCE; a good wife honors her hubby with a pleasant tone in her voice, a neat and clean appearance take good care of your self not just for him but even for your own self because it gives you confidence, do some exercises such as kegel, yoga, swimming etc. Some women feel that once they are married they need not to dress cute or border with their appearance my sister your assumption is wrong, that is the time you need to dress to kill him. men loves nice and pleasant smell so if you want to be cherished pls take care of your looks coz it's very important it makes him happy to present/
introduce you to his friends and colleagues.

HONESTY LOYAL AND DEDICATION; marriage is alife long commitment so the vows taken during during your wedding are not just for that day, so be dedicated in every thing pertaining to your partner and marraige, he is your best friend as such you are to feel free to discuss things with him though not as to discuss gossips that will not improve on your marriage (e.g spoiling some body before him) only focus on issues about you and him and your home or extended family (do not if you study him to be some one who likes using such to insult/abuse you so study him first before putting your self in trouble because sometimes it will come back to you if you are not careful).

EXPRESSION OF LOVE AND APPRECIATION; men loves praises and appreciation including petting just like women do, spend time with him when he is home even if you have something to do show him appreciation he loves it kiss and peck him, stay with him when he is doing his activities even if you aint interested in it join him it makes him happy. Don't forget the special days in his life celebrate him, cook his favourite, when tired and exausted give him a massage, make him depend when he is home by doing his chores sometimes that will make him to miss you when ever you are not around, buy him gift that you know he needs these gestures won't go unnoticed, don't with hold affection continue to play with that part You love most in him and remind him always that you will forever love him.

SPIRITUALITY; you are the spiritual pillar of your home always pray together, make it a habit to always have a time to fast for your family alone, if he has offended you and you find it difficult to discuss with him discuss it with God and let God help you, he will sure help you, always pray for your husband and your children. Do not let the world control your children by following more of worldly things than spiritual, they need to know that God is the reason why they are on earth and alive so always teach them to work upright and follow more of Godly things than worldly.

I know doing all this may not be complete for some women but i bet you out of these 13 points if you do 7-8 you are a good woman you only need to put some more effort to achive others one at a time, there is always room for improvement that is why we are not all perfect.

Of course doing all these may not guarantee you of having a non cheating partner but will help stop those whom were pushed out unintentional in one way or the other. There are men that believe.

CHEATING is their birth right or women are meant to be maltreated simply because they grew up around men whom never respect women, so with such mentality you will never change nor please them even if you will die for them so don't do these to expect anything in return but because it is your role to perform so that you don't end up miserable and frustrated.
I am very sure that any man would be happy to get a good wife with the above-listed qualities. Remember that marriage is a two way thing, only two people are in this relationship aside your God, so play your role to make this marriage an ideal one if you want your wife to exhibit all these qualities may God see all in marriage through.
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