How to Know When a Girl is Hiding Something [Part One of Two:]

Part One of Two
Reading the Signs That She Is Hiding Something

How to Know When a Girl is Hiding Something All people have secrets at different points in their lives. When a girl is hiding something, it may not necessarily be a bad thing; for example, she could be hiding information about a surprise birthday party. However, there are certainly also times when the secrets are more serious. There are ways to tell when a girl is hiding something, many of which are backed by psychological and scientific research.

Part One of Two:

Reading the Signs That She Is Hiding Something Be aware when something seems off about her. If this is someone that you spend a great deal of time around, you will likely become aware pretty quickly that something seems different or off. Make a mental note and try to remember to continue making observations about when she seems different than she usually does.

• 1. Be aware when something seems off about her. If this is someone that you spend a great deal of time around, you will likely become aware pretty quickly that something seems different or off. Make a mental note and try to remember to continue making observations about when she seems different than she usually does
• 2. Track when her behavior changes. Once you are aware that she seems off, start paying attention to when her behavior changes. Look for patterns that will give you an idea of what might be causing her to act differently.
•  Does her demeanor change when a particular subject is brought up?
•  Does the change occur when a certain person is around?
• Does she seem to feel uncomfortable when she is in a specific location?
•  Is there an upcoming event that she does not want to discuss?

3. Make observations about her changed behavior. Again, if you know her very well, then spotting differences in her behavior should be quite simple. As you narrow down the general cause for her sudden secrecy, observe her for any habits or tell-tale signs of lying or secrecy.

• Seems to be thinking really hard 
• Eyes frequently flickering toward an exit
• Frequently pauses when giving responses               
• Changes the subject abruptly
• Crosses her arms across her chest or protects other vulnerable areas, like her throat
• Shares too many details
•  Leans backward, as if trying to physically distance herself
•  Stillness of her arms and legs
•  Lack of emphatic gesturing
• Stops using “I” statements and refers to
• people by names instead of “him” or “her” 
• Avoids answering questions completely
• Clears throat and swallows hard frequently
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• 4. Consider the severity of what she seems to be hiding. As you observe her behavior and what triggers it, think about what she might be hiding and how serious it is.
• If you are in a relationship with her, then perhaps she is hiding that she is cheating or that she picked up a bad habit she promised she quit, like smoking. Or, if she is a friend, maybe she is hiding something that was said about you behind your back.
• There is always the chance that she is hiding something positive, like a surprise gift or party. It is important to give her the benefit of the doubt.
• 5. Write down your suspicions in order to prepare confronting her. Creating a list of your suspicions, or detailing one big suspicion, will help you to both look and feel more prepared as you confront her. It also gives you the opportunity to refer to what behaviors, words, or actions made you come to these conclusions.
• Include anything strange about her behavior, including things she has said, ways she has acted, and odd behaviors she has displayed.
• Note your observations about what topics or people seem to trigger these changes in her demeanor.

6. Ask a mutual friend's opinion on your suspicions. Choose someone who knows both of you and ask your friend if he/she has noticed the same odd behavior. This friend might know her side of the story and can help you realize if there is something you are missing that explains the behavior or if your observations are accurate.